The Pleasure Rabbit

To Blow or Eat or NOT to Blow and Eat?

“You men have no idea what we’re dealing with down there. Teeth placement, and jaw stress, and suction, and gag reflex, and all the while bobbing up and down, moaning and trying to breathe through our noses. Easy? Honey, they don’t call it a job for nothin’!” - the blowjob as summarised by Samantha Jones.

The year is 2011 and it’s still odd to hear people’s don’ts when it comes to the bedroom, namely oral sex.  The message is clear from both sexes; no oral is a deal breaker in any blooming relationship! I can understand not being into some S&M, spanking, choking or even being into the rear, but the act of not blowing or eating your partner is still surprising and prudish.

I began to ask the men who were at my disposal, as I normally do, and for the most part the answers were pretty straight forward.  Well except for one answer.  When I asked this particular person, (whom we’ll just call Doug), how he liked his BJs he answered “creative.”  The laughter was un-stopable for several minutes after the comment “what, do you like her to draw on your cock?”  For the most part men like to see a woman enjoy giving head, and might I add quite sloppy while bobbing up and down.  Ladies if you’re not sure if you’re doing a good job one word: BANANA.  Yes, ladies get a banana and practice.  If you see teeth marks change your suction tactics.  Make sure your banana is always nice and wet.  By the way, the banana is also a good way to practice putting on a condom with your mouth! After all safety is important and a must ;)

Now as for the women, the question was also asked how they liked to receive their head, and the responses were pretty much the same across the board.  So men take notes, women like it hard, wet, sucked and loved to be teased. It’s common knowledge that most men don’t know a woman’s anatomy, therefore some women fake that mind-blowing orgasm.  I think for the most part some men are quite intimidated while they’re down there and are doubtful of what they’re doing is right.  However for the men who are skilled and know a woman’s anatomy KUDOS to you! To be fair though, some women can’t handle being teased for too long. Some women are just too sensitive.  Men, circles upon circles and lots of clitoral stimulation will make her worship the quicksand you walk on.  Men should eat peaches more often, while the women eat bananas.

Men, it wouldn’t be such a bad idea to freshen up and trim or shave.  Ladies, the same could be said for us. Make that trip to the sex shop and pick up some yummy and delectably tasty lubes with your man or woman.  Who could turn down a tasty head job?  Who knows your significant other could change your name to Candy!

So take today’s lesson kids and run with it! Ladies, spit is your best friend.  Gentlemen, if you’re lost down there ask and she will guide you to her soft spots.  Also a helping hand wouldn’t be so bad now and then. That goes for men and women.  Practice, practice practice!!

XO

Masturbate Much?

After a person has their first sexual encounter, celibacy for the most part isn’t a rare occurrence for many adults.  I can’t help but wonder why there are so many men and women become celibate.  Whether it’s being single, married, or in a tumultuous relationship, why does celibacy happen after our virginity becomes non-exitstent?  When we’re young, sex is all about having fun and the idea of a pleasurable experience with the opposite sex, and not having a care who will give you your next orgasm.  However, as we get older we suddenly find our selves counting the days, weeks, months and sometimes years since the last sexual encounter. 

I was curious to find the answer to my question, and after numerous conversations with both sexes at various locations, I have found that women at the end of the day have the upper hand. Women for the most part, choose to be celibate as where men become celibate for lack of a partner. A woman wants to be swept off her feet and have her knickers wooed off.  Men, it appears just want to rip them off just as they did when they were 20.  Women will always be the ones to choose if and when to have careless and meaningless sex with a man. 

Safe to say that celibacy isn’t always for the single gal or guy.  Sometimes relationships, partnerships, and marriages fail in the bedroom, and the two people who were intimate on many levels are now miles away.  What do you do when you’re caught in this predicament?  Masturbate, find a toy, nightcap partner, hire an escort?  Truth of it is we do it all especially with time.

Sex 101

Welcome to the first entry of my revamped sex blog. This “new” blog is mostly for my friends who apparently live “vicariously” through my experiences, and frequently ask questions regarding sex. For years friends along the way have confided and shared their most intimate moments. They have also asked questions that perhaps felt too uncomfortable to ask any other friends who perhaps aren’t open-minded. So to start, a brief history lesson to begin with. Fornicate. A word religious authorities, and “proper” people use to describe sex that is used to refer to consensual & immoral sex. However, isn’t all sex immoral?

The Greek word porneia (from where the word porn derives) translates to fornicate. The word got its start in ancient Roman times. The Latin word fornix means “an archway” or “vault.” The word was synonymous with prostitutes, whether a man or woman. Yes you read right; men were also prostitutes. Given the openness of homosexuality, it isn’t surprising to find that men also registered as sex workers. In Roman times men & some women, would solicit prostitutes in the underground vaults that lay beneath Rome, and since the business was literally done in the archway, the word fornicate came to be. Between the archways small cement “benches” were placed for the convenience of the prostitute and his or her costumer. It was quick and pleasurable for both parties. One person made money and the other got off. A fair trade to say the least.

Group sex or orgies were also common and enjoyed by the more upper-class citizens. Given that they could afford to host such elaborate parties in secret rooms within their villas. Orgies also took place at bath houses. Prostitutes were also known to have been hired for these events. At these sex parties men had sex with men, women with women, or simply men with women. Homosexual sex was widely accepted, so long as the man would eventually marry and have a family. There was no labeling of gay, lesbian, or bisexuality. It was simply sex, and nothing more. It wasn’t until Victorian “gentlemen” decided to stigmatized sex and privatize erotic art, that sex was accepted as a part of life.

Sex ladies and gentlemen, is not immoral, dirty, nor is it shameful. It’s human nature. So enjoy, explore and keep an open mind. Be a tri-sexual; try everything once before saying no. Just remember to put a rain coat on it. Xoxo

There’s nothing new, except someone new.

The idea of meeting someone new and enjoying the giddiness that comes along, is quite the rush. The stolen kisses, hugs and provocative glances are all too exciting. Especially when it’s a secret between the two people. But what if when the someone new is quite young (8 years in fact) and you’re an ageist? Should this be one if the must dos in life?

The roles of each sex in society

After numerous phone calls of playing cat & mouse with clients and wanting to bash the heads in of a pair of attorneys, it was 5 o’clock.  The tension in my body began to ease.  Then a conversation of my colleagues’ expectations of their future spouses is sparked.  At the round table; two adults who have experienced some of battle wounds and scars of life (and sadly know there is more to come) and two teens turning into the age of adulthood, escaping with merely nothing but scratches.

Both teens want to finish university and attend law school, eventually marrying and having a family.  However, they both want for their future Mrs. to stay home and be housewives. The soldiers of in the war of life (myself included) see that this is what the typical upbringing of a Latin home.  I myself am of Latin origin, my fellow soldier is not.  However what we share in common is we were Southern raised with a different mentality of expectations.  Quite the opposite from the young folk.  Funny thing is we’re simply 10 years in age difference.  Oh but how the chronicles of life change and vary a person’s opinion.

I was always told and advised by every woman in my family from the I can recall, that I would be a fool to expect anything from a man.  “Never expect a man to give you anything, especially for free.” These are the words my mother told me.  As the discussion heats up, I make the point that when a woman seeks a man to take care of her so that she may stay home she’s deemed a “gold digger.”  The chatter goes dead.  It’s a double-edge sword, but the reality is that it seems to always have to be on a man’s terms what a woman should do or want. 

At the end of the lengthy convo, it’s obvious that the youngsters still have a whole lot of growing up.  Thankfully at the end of the day it’s still up to the woman to decide if she chooses to stay home and this is the 21st century.